I actually wrote a piece on body hair not that long ago. You can check it out here: www.bareinkslinger.com/mainblog/body-hair-purgatory
Trying to find a balance between what you like and what others like is tricky. To me, what it comes down to is whatever makes you feel most sexy and confident. If it makes you feel more confident when guys enjoy it trimmed, trim it up a bit. If it makes you feel more confident to go full Sasquatch, then let it grow.
But when trying to find this balance that makes you confident, keep this in mind: you cannot please everyone. When you trim it down, others will say they like it full. When you keep it full, others will say to trim it down.
Hope this helps.